Tanslated for IslamQA.


The basic principle is that a woman should be lowered down in the grave by her Mahram relatives (those whom she could not marry due to close kinship) if they are available. If the Mahrams are available but something prevents them from doing so, then it is permissible for a non-Mahram to place her in the grave, since Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated from the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “We were (in the funeral procession) of one of the daughters of the Prophet and he was sitting by the side of the grave. I saw his eyes shedding tears. He said, “Is there anyone among you who did not have sexual relations with his wife last night?” Abu Talha replied in the affirmative. And so the Prophet told him to get down in the grave. And so he got down in her grave.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari 1285].

Shaykh Ibn Al-‘Uthaimeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “None of the scholars – as far as I know – said that it is prohibited for a man who had sexual intercourse that night to put a woman in her grave. However, they did say that the one who had intercourse a long time ago is preferred for this…some people think that a woman can only be put in her grave by one of her Mahram relatives, but this is not correct. She should be placed in the grave by the one who knows best about the burial procedure, whether he is a Mahram to her or not.”

[Liqaa’ Al-Bab Al-Maftooh, no. 77]

Allah knows best.